Love is the eternal force of life
Love is the force that allows us to face fear and uncertainty with courage
Although you will be sharing one life, never forget you are two separate people.
Cherish and affirm your differences
Love each other
Keep your commitment primary
Together you will laugh and cry, be sick and well, be happy and angry
share and grow. Grow sometimes together and sometimes separately
The pouring of the sand symbolizes the importance of the individuals
within the marriage and the joining of two lives into one entity
The neutral sand symbolized that the marriage is based on the strength
of the individuals.
Each pour their own sand one on top of the other and then combine the
pouring to symbolize two lives joined as one together forever.
Children my also be included in the Sand Ceremony
Unity Candle Ceremony
Parents may be included in the Candle Lighting Ceremony by lighting
two tapers at the beginning of the ceremony. The Mothers of the Bride
and Groom are asked to come forward and light the two outside tapers.
It may also be any family representative. In addition, you can also
involve your children in the candle lighting ceremony.
Unity Candle Ceremony Continued after ring exchange
The bride and groom will now be asked to light the center candle with
the two candles already lit and the minister shall say to those in
"Name/Name, now symbolize their union by lighting a common candle as a
sign that a new family is born today. May their love burn bright and
may their life together be a light and an example of love in the
The minister will then say to the bride and groom: "Name/Name Take the
candles representing your individual lives and together combine your
light with the center candle to symbolize the strength and beauty you
bring to one another as husband and wife".
When the bride and groom return the Minister will say:
"Now you have lit a fire and that fire should not go out. The two of
you now have a fire that represents love, understanding and a
philosophy of life. It will give you heat, food, warmth and happiness.
The new fire represents a new beginning, a new life, a new family. The
fire should keep burning, you should stay together. You have lit the
fire for life, until old age separates you". (Excerpt from a Navajo
The Wine Cup Ceremony
Throughout the ages, wine has been used for celebration. Wine has
signified life and life of plenty. Drinking wine from a common cup has
been the mark of a deeper sharing. May Name/Name be blessed by life
and may this cup of wine be a symbol of you life long commitment to
each other in mind body and spirit. (The Officiant will then pass the
cup to the groom who then passes the cup to the bride and says.)
"Many days you will sit at the same table and eat and drink together.
Drink now and may the cup of your lives be rich and running over."
Breaking of the Glass
Name/Name Have chosen to perform the breaking of the glass, a Jewish
custom in a wedding ceremony. The breaking of the glass serves to
remind the bride and groom that their marriage vows are an
unchangeable act, just as permanent and final as the breaking of the
Blessing of the Hands
These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of
love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you
promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever. These are the
hands that will work alongside yours, as together you build your
future. These are the hands that will passionately love you and
cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch,, will
comfort you like no other. These are the hands that will hold you when
fear or grief fills your mind. These are the hands that will countless
times wipe the tears from your eyes; tears of sorrow, and tears of
joy. These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children. These
are the hands that will help you to hold your family as one. These are
the hands that will give you strength when you need it. And lastly,
these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged, will still be
reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with
just a touch.
"We all want to fall in love
Because that experience makes
Us feel completely alive."